coping with failure

I’ve heard the saying “success fuels success” many times and while I believe that the great feeling of success keeps pushing us, it doesn’t leave much room for growth. I believe that failure guides success even more.

I find that after a failure I feel paralyzed with fear –I don’t know how many people can agree with me on that, but I do. Walking into a class after failing an exam is probably the worst feeling; you’re sitting there with your throat in a knot with this immense amount of pressure on your chest wondering if you should even be there. I’ve realized that this feeling arises from the stigma around failure that if you’re anything less than perfect, “you’re not good enough.”

But there is so much more to learn from a failure than a success. You know exactly what it is you did wrong and what areas you need to look into for improvement.

Let’s think about this for a moment: how many of you have asked another student, that always seems to nonchalantly pass an exam, how they do it? and their answer goes something like “well, I don’t know, I just studied I guess.” or “I don’t know, I guess I just managed to study the right thing.” and you’re there like “okay…”

Well, the best pupils are those that have felt the bitter sting of failure who are looking to improve themselves. Every good success story begins with a failure or several at that.

Without failure there is no success, failure gives us the opportunity to succeed.

It’s okay to feel sad about failing but the key is to not let it paralyze you. Keep working through it with the confidence in knowing that you will be better because of it.

warmest wishes,

Winny ❤️